I guess you could say that I am the “go to” friend for just about any type of advice pertaining to damn near anything. So, I was not shocked when I received a message from an old friend asking for advice on a personal situation. I figured I would take it to the Juicy Girl Talk community to get her some additional feed back. *Permission granted and names have been changed.

Here’s the situation. My girl friend Stacee, who is a happily married newly wed, called me this afternoon with a dilemma of the “bedroom” type. She  says that she has really been having difficulty figuring out whether or not to spit or to swallow during oral sex.  She says that she hates to “swallow” because she dislikes the taste and it makes her gag. But, at the same time, she feels that spitting it out would be some sort of an insult to her husband so she unwillingly tolerates it. Believe it or not, this is not the first time I have heard this, many women have a difficult time expressing their concerns in the  area of cunnilingus  and fellatio.

I simply said to Stacee, “If you dislike the taste, and if it makes you gag then don’t swallow it! I mean, I’m not a man, but I am quite certain that as long as you bring him to a full on oral climax, he could probably care less!  Also, there are plenty of other things that you could do to enhance his happy ending besides swallowing. You could rub it on your face, between your breasts, or better yet,  you could simply ask him. I’m sure he’s the best person to give you advice on what he prefers.”  **sidebar – a mans diet plays a significant role in the taste of his semen. If the taste is not to your liking, have him to drink plenty of fresh orange or pineapple juice, this should help the taste to be more tolerable.

Ladies,  oral stimulation should be enjoyed by both parties involved and you should never do anything that makes you uncomfortable. We must keep the lines of communication open with our men. If you’re taking the time to give “the business,”  you should take a moment to inquire about his preferences; simply put, find out what  “you”  can do to make  “his”  experience more enjoyable. Men are easy (well, most of them). You just have to ask for “exactly” what you need and require, especially in the department of cunnilingus. Be very specific, using visuals will help because men tend to be extremely visual creatures.

I know that this sort of conversation could be a bit difficult for many women, so just in case any of you are a bit apprehensive about how to broach this type of dialog with your man, here’s an example: Wait until the mood is right of course – then say, Sweetie, Daddy, Baby or whatever you call him, “When you ejaculate into my mouth it makes me gag, you don’t have a problem with me spitting it out do you?” Then, you can ask him to tell you something that “you” can do to make his experience more enjoyable. Now, he may look a bit astonished and shocked, as he is probably not accustomed to you being so open; but excited nonetheless. I’m sure he’ll have noooo problem obliging you in lightening speed. Even if you are uncomfortable, just continue talking, that’s the only way to incorporate this new genre of dialog into your relationship. If you are absolutely serious about pleasing your man then this is a must have! Blow by Blow written by relationship expert Michael Webb – a well respected author, he has been featured on Oprah,  ABC News, CBS News, Chicago Tribune, Bride Magazine, Cosmo and Essence…

Ladies & especially gentlemen,  what advice would you offer to the “Stacee’s” of the world?   Chime in, your opinion could make a difference.