Prince or Pedophile?
April 6, 2010 by J. Jones
Filed under Dear Juicy, Weed In My Coffee
My best friend recently got married to a man she’s only known for six weeks. I am not one to stand in the way of “true love” but I really don’t feel like she’s known him long enough to be having an instant family, especially when she has a teenage daughter and two smaller children. I really feel like she just wanted to get married and anyone willing to take on the task would suffice. She’s always got a new love interest and any of them could have been “the one” if they would have shown up with a brass ring.
She seems to be really into him, but I personally don’t like him, he gives me the creeps. He’s too damn touchy- feely with everyone, especially her daughter who happens to be one of these “mega-teens,” she has more rump, bumps and hips than I do. He’s always wrestling, tickling and patting her fourteen-year-old little girl on the ass! She has two sons and I NEVER, EVER see him interacting with them like this. I’m not certain if all this marital bliss has this chick blind as a bat, but she’s really acting like she doesn’t see any of this and it’s starting to piss me off.
Being that she just got hitched, I knew I had to ease into this conversation about her new husband other wise she would get an attitude and I would never be able to make my point. (I really want to do a background check, I bet he’s a pervert) I invited her to dinner and a movie, during dinner I inquired about how married life was going and how the kids were adjusting to having (another) a new man in their lives. She said that everything was wonderful and that Shayla really loves him because he always does special things for her, like buying her video games and taking her shopping. (All of which is a red flag to me.) He let’s her stay up way past her bed time on school nights watching movies with him, meanwhile everyone else – including his “new wife” is fast asleep. He even takes naps in Shayla’s bed! Claiming that her “twin” bed is more comfortable than theirs, unbelievable! I asked how the boys were adjusting and she said that they were “jealous” of all the attention Chris gives to Shayla and that Chris is a bit harder on the boys, saying that they need to toughen up. They are only seven and three! How tough do they need to be at this age? Is it me, or is this chick crazy? Does she hear what she’s saying to me!!! I pulled out my compact just to see if there was smoke coming out of my ears… So I asked her, “do you see a problem with your new husband being so close with only one of your children?” And just as I knew – she said she does not. I told her that I was uncomfortable with the way Chris is always groping everyone, especially Shayla and that she needs to start paying attention. Further more, you have two sons that I think he should be trying to bond with as well. She said that he is a very affectionate person and he doesn’t mean anything by it.
I’m really not trying to stir up any commotion, but I truly do not trust this guy, I think he’s a pervert and I wouldn’t be surprised to hear that he was a pedophile. I really need someone else to assess this situation because maybe I am just being over protective because I love my best friend like a sister. Am I overreacting, or does it seem like any of this should be a problem to her?
Signed,
Everybody Hates Chris
Dear Everybody Hates Chris,
It’s refreshing to see that people still genuinely care about the welfare of others enough to get envolved. It seems that you have quite a dilemma on your hands with wanting to protect your best friend and her children. Your friend may be to engulfed with her new situation and therefore is not paying as close attention as she should. Although you have limited authority and control over her decisions, at least you took the preliminary steps to make her aware. It may not seem as though she heard you, but I am certain that she will begin to take notice of his behavior. All you can do is monitor her daughters behavior and attitude, if she begins to become withdrawn, angry or depressed it could signal that something has transpired. Continue to bring it to her attention for as long as she will hear it, that’s really all you can do. Let’s hope that Chris is not a pervert for Shayla’s sake.
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Hi Everybody Hates Chris,
Ughhhh!!! This guy is sooooo creepy! Yuck! I definitely agree with the responder that it is very refreshing to see that people still genuinely care about the welfare of their friends. This is potentially DESTRUCTIVE to the ENTIRE household should this guy be who you think he is.
You said that you asked your friend whether or not she did a background check on her new husband and she said no. Would you be willing to invest in doing the background check on her behalf (without her knowing initially of course)? Should the background check have some type of history and this guy really turned out to be the creep that he seems to be, then you have some proof to show her.
But even still, if the husband does not have a history, then I agree with the responder and keep a close eye on the kids.
Best of Luck!
- the artistichic
I have just read this and I have to tell you that i am 16 and the exact same thing happened to our family. Well to me it did anyway. My mom and him (Gary) dated back when they were teens, they broke up because she met my Dad, and they broke up so then she got back in contact with Gary.
Me and my sister had never met this guy before and the second we met him we hated him. My sister (Emma) is 19 and she had a hunch there was something wierd about him in the way he would look at me when I couldnt see him. Like he was looking at my ass as I walked and at my breasts at the dinner table. When Emma alerted me with this, I didnt want to say anything to mom so we just forgot about it.
Gary and mom were together for about 3 years and I grew to like him because I figured hey, my mom obviously really likes this guy so I thought I would do my best to make things work. Before long, we were going to Saunas and Sunbeds together as I didnt have a membership to the local leisure centre so I used my moms ID.
I grew to trust him and we would talk about everything. I would talk to him about me and my boyfriend because he was like an adult I could trust and who wouldnt go and tell my mom or dad about anything I had told him. In return he would tell me about his life, with women and other things. At the time i found this very strange as him saying stuff like he used whips really freaked me out.
He moved in to our house in the Novmeber just passed and a week later he had cleaned through my room from top to bottom without my permission. I was pissed off but couldnt do anything about it. Later that night I was putting somethings that he had put on my desk away and I hit something in my bookcase by my door and it was a tiny camera.
My mom was going to London with Gary the next day so he was home so I couldnt say anything. They went away the next day and the camera was gone when I got home the day after when I got home from school with my boyfriend.
I told them about it and we rang the police they came over and then searched his office. They didnt find anything suspicious apart from something contructed out of papaer and card in my room on the other shelf of my bookcase that would hold a spy camera.
They got home and he was arrested. His laptop was seized but he had wiped everything off of it once we had told my dad and mom what he had found.
We recently got the results back from the police and they managed to retrieve some videos of my changing in my room and pictures of me naked from the device that I had found.
I dont konw where he is now but I never want another man living in my house again. Mom has a new boyfriend and he is nice but I will never be the same with anyone again.
the sick thing was he tried so hard and spent money to gain my trust to do that to me. It tore my family apart because my mom didnt want to believe us and she ket speaking to him on the phone and going to see him. This made me and my sister mad and we didnt speak anymore. Mom would come home from work and ignore us if we spoke to her. I had to have councelling to deal with everything and I couldnt even tell anyone about it so I was completely on my own in school when none of my friends knew. I felt like she put the blame on me like it was my fault her boyfriend was a peodofile. The worst thing is that now we know if was definately him, you would think we would get justice? But no, he has a caution and its not even going to court.
I feel like ater so much pain and trouble, I want to show people that they need to speak up if something is not right. We stopped this just as it started, who knows what could have happened to me if he hadnt been caught.
You should let your friend know how you feel and how you see him acting with her kids.
I wish the best of luck to you in your situation and I hope your remember my story.