Why Men Don’t Like Desperate
November 17, 2009 by Mr. Man
Filed under The Testosterone Perspective
Let me get straight to the point ladies, I can’t tell you how many times I have witnessed woman making the mistake of being too desperate when they meet a guy. Look, we men do not like desperate, we pity it and we see it as the perfect opportunity to take advantage of you. You will become the” booty call girl”, the one we fuck when there is no one else is available. I know it sounds harsh right? But that’s the simple truth.
Please let me explain what goes on in our minds when we sense desperation. When you come across as a DW, (desperate woman) you have just lowered your overall value. When this occurs it has the opposite effect on a mans value; meaning we know you value us more than we value you. When we know we are worth more than you, you become “beneath us,” and we feel that we can do better than you. We start to feel that we would be cheating ourselves by being with you. After all, we must be worth a lot more since you want this so much, right? Yeah, we “know” we can do better than you. You have broken a major law! You know the one of supply and demand. When you meet a guy, let’s say you come across a little over enthused, you may find yourself giving too much too soon; Big Big mistake. By supplying too much too soon, this decreases the demand for you. (If you hold back the supply, you’ll increase the demand.) Breaking this simple rule will put you into the booty call section, you become something to do. Once you’re there, it really becomes an up hill battle to get out. The situation just deteriorates and becomes worse because the more you try, the more desperate you seem. As a matter of fact, it’s almost impossible to go from the booty call girl to the girl friend and almost unheard of to become the wife. After all, who wants to marry the desperate girl?
Now that we have discussed that, let me tell you what men want. We want to feel like we got lucky. We want the woman who doesn’t want our stupid ass. The one with the shitty, bitchy attitude. The one who treats us “just” good enough to keeps us, but “just” mean enough to keep us chasing her. I know this shit sounds stupid but ladies remember who you are dealing with here.
Have you every known a really great guy and he’s dating a total bitch? You say to yourself, “what the fuck is he with her for? She treats him like shit. The reason is really simple; she makes him feel lucky to have her. Men like to feel like they got a great deal that they are not supposed to have, and Ms. Shitty attitude does that. How does she do that? By not coming across as a DW! She makes us chase her, so we see her as being unattainable. When we get her we want to “keep her” at all cost because everyone knows that things you have to work hard for you tend to value more. Therefore, she becomes the keeper, the prime candidate for wife status. We’ll bend over backwards for these women, we become there bitches, willing to do whatever is necessary to keep them happy; anything to “stay” the lucky guy.
All guys know the two major facts about DW’s: 1. That we can always hit it. 2. They will put up with a whole lot of shit with minimal complaints. And if they do complain a lot, who cares, they’re not going anywhere, after all they’re the lucky ones right? So ladies when you meet a guy that you like let him come to you and believe me if he likes you he will and if he does not come to you he was not interested in the first place., at least not to the level were he would want to make the effort. Ladies ask your self this “Do I want to be with someone who does not feel that I am worth the effort?” Remember you have the power to set how much you are worth, do not let a man set your value.
Ladies if you are tired of doing the same things and getting the same results I recommend you read this great little ebook I recently came across it’s by a well known relationship expert and although I did not agree with everything he had to say I did agree with most things he had to say. The book is called How to be the woman men adore…and never want to leave. By Bob Grant
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I love : Supply vs Demand makes so much sense !!!!
Thank goodness some man out there is willing to tell us the TRUTH! I have so many friends who need to hear it from a man because I am SICK and TIRED of trying to help them, they don’t listen anyway.
Thank goodness some man out there is willing to tell us the TRUTH. I’m so SICK and TIRED of trying to help my friends out when they don’t listen any way. maybe they’ll accept it better from a man.
These are not the patterns of men, but the pattern of whores, applicable to both men and women. A whore lacks respect for him or herself and therefore sleeps with anything going including persons that he or she does not value or respect. This is also why they build relationships with persons that do not respect them. Their counterpart, in their ’shitty attitude’ reflects the same inferior image that the whore sees in him or herself.
I recommend Michael Losier’s Law of Attraction
So I’m going to copy and paste a paragraph first….then say my ‘comment’ and ask my question:
~~~Have you every known a really great guy and he’s dating a total bitch? You say to yourself, “what the fuck is he with her for? She treats him like shit. The reason is really simple; she makes him feel lucky to have her. Men like to feel like they got a great deal that they are not supposed to have, and Ms. Shitty attitude does that. How does she do that? By not coming across as a DW! She makes us chase her, so we see her as being unattainable. When we get her we want to “keep her” at all cost because everyone knows that things you have to work hard for you tend to value more. Therefore, she becomes the keeper, the prime candidate for wife status. We’ll bend over backwards for these women, we become there bitches, willing to do whatever is necessary to keep them happy; anything to “stay” the lucky guy.
So, question: IF this woman who is bitchy and attitudinal, causing you to keep coming at her over and over and over again… is she not desperate also? I mean she’s (at least in my opinion) desperate enough to PLOT to keep you coming back FOR ATTENTION…she’s desperate for attention… ANNNDD if the guy in question is ‘constantly trying to figure out how and why’…then does that act alone not put him in that ‘desperate’ category too? I’m just wondering- at what point do we GROW UP and just say ‘lady, you’re too aggressive for me, let’s slow it down and see what’s up’ or ‘look lady, you’re not right for me’. WHY would you ‘pity her’ as if she could’t be with somebody else? And lead her to believe that you were interested in her… sleep with her and INSTANTLY she’s the ‘booty call girl’ TO YOU, but QUITE POSSIBLY to her, she’s the apple of your eye? Has that ever been considered? Actions are often times ‘mis read’ buy the sexes…LOL A lot of times we (women) look wwwaayy deeper into the things you (men) do, since you (men) won’t really SAY…we are kinda FORCED to try to figure things out. And the one time we ‘read it wrong’, we’re the jump off… So not fair. She just might be ‘pity’ to you, but over all a very good/nice lady who can be great with someone else… BUT that’s usually over looked and you sleep with her… lead her one to think other wise, leave her a bit scarred possibly then potentionally emotionally unavailable for the next guy- the one who DOESN’T see her as pitiful…
Now, I do think there were a lot of great points hit on in this article, but at the same time, some things that MAY have been over looked. Also, I do also know there are some women out there who ARE very desperate and who WILL drop the panties at the VERY FIRST smile from the guy of interest. Those women- well… I just don’t know…(LOL), but I’m not so sure I believe that the majority of the women out there who’ve SHOWN INTEREST in a guy is ‘THAT’ woman. Could be, but in my mind, it’s a lot more of the other kind out there…
(good read)
A agree that men don’t like desperate women. However, I don’t know many men who like bitchy women, either. I personally wouldn’t tolerate a woman who had a shitty attitude or made herself seem “unattainable” – why put up with that garbage when there are other women out there who have good attitudes but aren’t bitchy?